Confidence and self esteem, although different things, co-exist and closely relate to each other.
You cannot be truly confident unless you have good self esteem to back it up, giving you the feeling you can indeed do whatever it is you are setting out to do.
Confidence is described as belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; certitude; self-reliance; assurance.
Self esteem is defined in the dictionary as a realistic respect for, or favorable impression of, oneself; self-respect.
You need to feel good about yourself in order to have the confidence that you will succeed.
As Sheila Kurtz puts it in her book â€œRewrite Your Lifeâ€, â€œSelf confidence ultimately is self-knowledge or your own personal power.â€
In handwriting analysis, self confidence is identified from the way you write your lower case â€œtâ€s, where you place to crossbar, and also in the size of your personal pronoun â€œI.â€
If you have self respect and know that you are a worthwhile, gifted, unique individual, this self esteem will give you the backing you need (confidence) to go out in the world and express yourself, take calculated risks, be visible and in general â€œbe all that you can be.â€
The person who just aims close for home and takes few risks puts their t-bar down low on the t-stem.Â The t-bar may be level with the tops of the other lower case letters, or it may be below them.Â This writer will make goals like anyone else, but they will only be aiming for safe targets.Â They do not have a belief system which allows them to aim with any confidence at more ambitious achievements.
Our belief is our reality.Â What we believe is what is true for us.Â As Henry Ford said â€œWhether you believe you can, or you believe you canâ€™t, you are right.â€
So the person with the low t-bars, the low goals, only aims for the bottom rung of the ladder, and will only take the next step once they have proved to themselves that they have achieved that first step.
Some people will argue this and claim they have very high goals, and quote to you all the wonderful things they intend to do. But if their t-bars are low, no matter how much they may say they are ambitious, they donâ€™t really believe in their ability to achieve these lofty goals.
The person who puts their goals about half way up the t-stem has practical goals.Â They can realistically analyze what is possible, and will aim for that. This shows more self esteem which in turn gives them more confidence.Â It shows that whatever this writer things most people with his or her background/ experience/ abilities can do, so can he or she do the same.
This shows more self respect and self esteem than the low t-bars.
But the one with the real confidence, the self esteem that will allow them to take calculated risks, the confidence to just go for it, is the writer who places the t-bar of the lower case â€œtâ€ on the very top of the t-stem, but still touching it.
It takes esteem in your own abilities, confidence to launch out and just go for it.Â This writer has it.
A note to those of you who place your t-bars above the top of the t-stem, floating in outer space:Â that is exactly where your goals are â€“ in the clouds.Â They have to become attached to reality (attached to the t-stem) before they have much chance of being realized.Â Of course there is nothing wrong with having a few dreams, just donâ€™t let your whole life be tied up in them.
Confidence also shows in your capital letters, both capitals in general and in the personal pronoun â€œI.â€
Both should be more than twice the size of the lower case letters to show confidence.Â It is particularly significant if the size of the capitals on a signature are different from other capitals, as this, obviously, is very intimately related to the writer.
However, overblown, or huge capitals indicate an over extended ego, which in turn may make the writer think he or she is much more talented, intelligent, capable than s/he really is.Â When in combination with extremely high â€œtâ€ and â€œdâ€ stems, more than 3 times the height of the lower case letters, (the indication of vanity) the expectations of the writer become unrealistic and the ego they project is usually unpleasant to those around them.
These are the main traits for confidence self esteem as shown in handwriting.
If you donâ€™t have them as you would like to have them, you can engage in the practice of Graphotherapy to help you gain them.
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